10-20-22 12:17 AM - Post#922698    

This was interesting.

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2120668119



So, the graph has four quadrants, or two axes. There's the diversity of your social circles, and then there's how much time you spend with them. It turns out that people with few different kinds of people who spend little time with them are unhappy. That's not surprising.

But interestingly, while having a few people who you spend a lot of time with makes you happier than the person who doesn't it's not as good as having a diversity of people.

• Quoting:

This makes me think of that work-rest-play-pray thing, and DJ's comment that you can add in one area only if you add in another. Work more, but rest more. Play more, but pray (alone time) more. And, he added, that as you add things to your life, so long as it's in balance, you don't get overwhelmed, but your life spirals out to have more people in it. And if this survey is correct, that'll make you happier.

That's why I tell people to come to the gym even when they feel awful physically or mentally. It'll only add to their lives.

Athletic Club East Strength in numbers

10-20-22 11:49 AM - Post#922703    

Like most of these things, it's seems to bias towards extroverted personality types. Introverts don't show up to participate in studies...

10-20-22 12:12 PM - Post#922705    

Plus, I think it's awful French people don't spend time with their mothers. For shame.

10-20-22 03:37 PM - Post#922710    

Graphs make my eyes bleed. Pretty colors though.

Re: Social Quadrants
10-20-22 04:50 PM - Post#922713    

I had a psychology professor who provided an excellent summation/definition of introverts and extroverts.

An introvert was someone who gained "energy" from solitude.

An extrovert was someone who gained "energy" from being around others.

Ultimately, her bigger point was that people need some level of community in their life, regardless of whether they're introverts or extroverts. It's just that for some, filling that need might be draining (introverts), so they should do it in limited doses (whether that's volume or breadth of engagement), whereas extroverts may find filling that need is invigorating. I found that insight illuminating.

Re: Social Quadrants
10-20-22 09:41 PM - Post#922717    

• PulledPork Said:

In all seriousness I'm a gregarious introvert. I enjoy being around people but am quiet more often than not. My wife is a "real" introvert. She can go days being around just me and nobody else and she is just fine. Neither of us enjoy being the center of attention.

Just my 2¢

Edited by WxHerk on 10-20-22 09:42 PM. Reason for edit: No reason given.

10-21-22 03:46 PM - Post#922737    

I think it is always amazing when introverts speak out and defend themselves about not speaking out.

Attempt at humor.

Daniel John Just handing down what I was handed down... Make a Difference. Live. Love. Laugh. Balance work, rest, play and pray (enjoy beauty and solitude) Sleep soundly. Drink Water. Eat veggies and protein. Walk. Wear your seat belt. Don’t smoke. Floss your teeth. Put weights overhead. Pick weights off the floor. Carry weights. Reread great books. Say thank you

10-21-22 09:27 PM - Post#922747    

• Dan John Said:

I love this so much...

10-23-22 12:00 PM - Post#922773    

• Dan John Said:

It worked!!

Just my 2¢

10-23-22 11:18 PM - Post#922786    

• Dan John Said:

In the book Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that won't stop talking, the authour says that an introvert becomes an extrovert when talking about their favourite topic.

To me, this is the difference between geeks and nerds. Both are enthusiastic and knowledgeable about their favoured topic, but the geeks know when the listener has heard enough.

This site has probably collected a few people who are geeks about fitness stuff.

Athletic Club East Strength in numbers

10-24-22 12:30 AM - Post#922788    

I’ve read enough

Nice legs-shame about the face

10-24-22 01:25 AM - Post#922789    

• Kyle Aaron Said:

I think it’s probably reasonable to distinguish between having the requisite interpersonal skills versus personality traits.

There are probably plenty of introverts who can be the life of the party and are great conversationalists but will need some time to recharge after some socializing.

Conversely, I can distinctly remember the awkward person at our last work event who just stood too close to everyone and tried to sidle in to every discussion. When called out on it, they just said “I’m not good at conversation, I just like to be around people”.